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Old 11-09-2008, 02:31 PM   #4
charlene
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Default Re: I Y C R M M ! War ich ein Buch / 1973

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Originally Posted by geodeticman.5 View Post
- but LADIES - i GUARANTE ITA- IF YOU WANT TO ATTRACT A MAN - AS IN VIRTUALLY EVERY MAN i KNOW- WEAR IT LONG, AND SIMPLE...- THE CINNAMON BUNS ON TOP, BACK, OR SIDES ARE COOL . IF THE HAIR IS STILL LONG.... trust me.....
You must be joking.
I wear MY hair the way/colour/length that makes me feel confident in WHO I am..IF a woman truly feels that she is who she REALLY is with long hair that is wonderful. If she is wearing her hair/clothes/makeup etc. in part because a partner wants it that way that's fine as long as she NEVER thinks to herself that she'd love to have her hair etc. the way SHE and SHE alone wants it.
I have known women who have worn their hair the way their partners liked it (longish/long/certain colour etc.) and ALL of them wished they could wear it the way they really wanted it..
If a potential partner is looking at compatibility and judges it on how/if I give the nod to his liking my hair in a way I don't care to wear, then I have to question just exactly what he is all about.
If a man passes on a woman with hair not to his liking then they are both better off not having a relationship and there probably wouldn't be one to start with if he's set on someone with long hair or whatever 'thing' it is that he desires..that sort of shallowness cuts no ice with me.
I know a young man of 20 who told his girlfriend of 20 he didnt' want her to have it above her shoulders..and she came back from the salon with it an inch or so above...He never said a word but the point had been made and taken..SHE will do what she wants with her hair and while she appreciates that he likes it a certain way she is still the beautiful girl with all the HUMAN attributes he loves..He certainly wasn't going to grow out his brushcut for her..or grow a beard because she thought it sexy/desirable...
Relationships involve a lot of compromise and sure don't need to start off with someone compromising themselves to get one..

just my 2 cents here in 2008.
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